Seven Tips for Setting Boundaries

I was thrilled to record an Instagram live with Mamamade founder Sophie Meislin Baron, where we discussed setting boundaries with family, work and tech – a topic that any of you who follow me on my own Instagram account will know I am passionate about.

We had a great response from followers, so I created an article on the subject for Mamamadefood.com: I thought I’d share an extract here, too.

Seven Tips for Setting Boundaries

1. Communicate boundaries clearly and concisely: for example that you can’t respond to emails out of hours, and that if there is something urgent, you would prefer a phone call.

2. Improve your own worth: when someone oversteps the mark, gently and calmly let them know.  Stay strong and have confidence in your own boundaries; respect your own needs, time and energy.

3. Make your schedule clear – you may have previously worked late consistently and that is no longer possible, let your employer know and map out when you will be available. If you work flexibly, be sure to tell others your working hours – you can always add an email signature that outlines when you will be available to respond to messages (and also to communicate to others that there’s no expectation of response if you often work out of typical hours).

4. Once you set boundaries, you need to stick to them – be consistent. This is important.

5. Set boundaries with yourself and technology – if you check emails before bed, give yourself a strict cut-off time and put your laptop away in a cupboard. You could try deleting your email app from your phone over weekends, so you don’t check emails – unless you know you’re expecting something urgent. If you struggle with disconnecting from technology, think about how you’d feel if technology wasn’t imposing on your life – would you be relaxed or wound up? Would you be more present with your family?

6. Manage your time and energy: rather than using your most precious commodity (time) on things that don’t fulfill you, simply say ‘no thanks’. Spend time on things that restore and revitalise you. Many working Mums I meet are stretched so thin and aren’t doing things they enjoy or are passionate about.

7. If you struggle with people-pleasing, and saying yes to things you wish you hadn’t, slow down in the moment – rather saying yes or no straight away, say ‘let me go away and think about it and come back to you’. Give yourself the space to make the right decision for you.

Read More: Boundaries, Burnout and What You Can Do

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Over 70% of people experience Imposter Syndrome so if you’re managing a team, it’s likely one or more of them are experiencing this phenomenon. If you’d like to understand more, then I hope this video helps and watch to the end for tips and how I can support you. 
Do you have team members struggling with this? For noting, the external environment we are in such as a competitive or gendered culture can greatly exacerbate our Imposter feelings.

Over 70% of people experience Imposter Syndrome so if you’re managing a team, it’s likely one or more of them are experiencing this phenomenon. If you’d like to understand more, then I hope this video helps and watch to the end for tips and how I can support you.

Do you have team members struggling with this? For noting, the external environment we are in such as a competitive or gendered culture can greatly exacerbate our Imposter feelings.

It can be hard making the change from full time to part time, compressed or staggered hours (or other types of flexible working). So here’s some quick tips on protecting your non-work day or hours. It’s important we set our boundaries and set expectations for both you and your employer, as well as your colleagues who may also work flexibly. If you start to check and reply to Teams messages on your day off, then should your colleague too? 
Tag a friend or colleague below who may find this helpful. Or add what works for you below. Olivia x 
#flexibleworking #flexappeal #flexiblework #returntowork #returntoworkmums #careertips #careercoach #worktips

It can be hard making the change from full time to part time, compressed or staggered hours (or other types of flexible working). So here’s some quick tips on protecting your non-work day or hours. It’s important we set our boundaries and set expectations for both you and your employer, as well as your colleagues who may also work flexibly. If you start to check and reply to Teams messages on your day off, then should your colleague too?

Tag a friend or colleague below who may find this helpful. Or add what works for you below. Olivia x

#flexibleworking #flexappeal #flexiblework #returntowork #returntoworkmums #careertips #careercoach #worktips

The words I needed to hear this week, three weeks away from maternity leave…I hope these bring you some comfort too x

The words I needed to hear this week, three weeks away from maternity leave…I hope these bring you some comfort too x

Creating a new dialogue with your Imposter can be so helpful. You can say things like:
- Thanks for that, I used to lack confidence in myself, but now I believe in myself…
- I know I can do this and I’m learning and growing everyday…
- I’m grateful for this opportunity and I’m going to make sure I balance my time, energy and not work myself into the ground to prove my worth…
There are so many self-affirming and confidence-boosting things you can say to yourself to create a new narrative in your mind. 
What do you say that’s helpful in these moments where your Imposter shows up? I’d love to hear. Olivia x

Creating a new dialogue with your Imposter can be so helpful. You can say things like:
– Thanks for that, I used to lack confidence in myself, but now I believe in myself…
– I know I can do this and I’m learning and growing everyday…
– I’m grateful for this opportunity and I’m going to make sure I balance my time, energy and not work myself into the ground to prove my worth…

There are so many self-affirming and confidence-boosting things you can say to yourself to create a new narrative in your mind.

What do you say that’s helpful in these moments where your Imposter shows up? I’d love to hear. Olivia x

Something a bit different today…
Notes from my journal that I’ve just shared with my subscribers. Here’s an excerpt for you too. PS I’ve got one spot left in Feb for either one client or a corporate speaking slot. Please get in touch Asap if you’d like to take it!
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Living with Imposter Syndrome is like being in a boxing ring with an opponent who is far stronger. Where they attack the weaker player until they are broken, bleeding on the floor and confidence is shattered.
They call you names and say things like: 'If only you were like her, you'd be so much better at your job...'.
I allow myself to be beaten up by my Imposter, almost continuously. I forget to treat myself with kindness, or compassion. It's easier to bruise and batter myself with criticism.
Some days the Imposter will be magnified like when I'm the most 'junior' person in the room. My voice constricts, I feel anxious, wondering if what I say will make sense or be clear. Other days I'm filled with confidence. I'm always on tenterhooks - wondering if my Imposter will show up that day…

Something a bit different today…

Notes from my journal that I’ve just shared with my subscribers. Here’s an excerpt for you too. PS I’ve got one spot left in Feb for either one client or a corporate speaking slot. Please get in touch Asap if you’d like to take it!


Living with Imposter Syndrome is like being in a boxing ring with an opponent who is far stronger. Where they attack the weaker player until they are broken, bleeding on the floor and confidence is shattered.

They call you names and say things like: `If only you were like her, you`d be so much better at your job…`.

I allow myself to be beaten up by my Imposter, almost continuously. I forget to treat myself with kindness, or compassion. It`s easier to bruise and batter myself with criticism.

Some days the Imposter will be magnified like when I`m the most `junior` person in the room. My voice constricts, I feel anxious, wondering if what I say will make sense or be clear. Other days I`m filled with confidence. I`m always on tenterhooks – wondering if my Imposter will show up that day…

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